I recently listened to an episode of The High Performance Podcast featuring Siya Kolisi, the first black captain of the South African rugby union team and the man who led the Springboks to World Cup glory in 2019.
The interview is a powerful articulation of humanity, self-awareness and leadership. As I listened, I noticed a number of points that relate to our own core pillars of wellbeing, teaming and leadership. In this final article, I will look at how control and planning for success can support our wellbeing.
Influence and control
A concept you often hear sportspeople and military personnel speak about is ‘controlling the controllables’. We can waste a lot of time and energy worrying about things that are outside of our control. But if we focus on giving our best to the things we can control, it can reduce stress and anxiety, increase happiness and improve our performance.
When asked how he reacts if others don’t meet his standards, Kolisi said:
“Are you giving your best? I can only lead when I’m doing my best on the field.
I can’t control what everybody does. I can’t control what my teammate does but I can control what I say to him and how I treat him.”
Your personal wellbeing is based on how you feel internally and how you react to external stimuli. Raising your self-awareness helps you recognise a situation, then catch yourself so you can pause to decide how best to respond. Activating this pause and response mechanism enables you to consider the impact of your actions, make better decisions and respond more productively.
How you interact with others impacts their performance and wellbeing too. You might not be able to control what they do, but in delivering a considered response and being the best version of yourself, you can influence their mindset, encourage their action and support their development.
Planning for success
‘What are we going to do when we win?‘
That was the question Kolisi’s wife asked him the night before the 2019 Rugby World Cup final.
She reminded him that a lot of people dream of being in this position, but they don’t prepare for when it happens.
So the night before the biggest game of Kolisi’s career, he and his wife wrote down the things they wanted to do when they won – essentially, how to use their platform because they had absolute belief that they would win. It included starting a foundation and tackling the challenges they and their families faced growing up in South Africa - something well outside of the rugby field. Around a year later, when The High Performance Podcast interview took place, they’d already achieved all but one of the things they wrote down. And I would imagine they had a new list in place and were working towards completing that, too.
I’ve heard many sports people talk about reaching the pinnacle of their sport, then feeling lost because they don’t know what to do next or they’re unsure how anything can live up to the achievement. And it can be the same with targets and successes in business or life. It could even apply to leaving a job or your children leaving home.
You don’t have to have everything mapped out when you start your journey, but by setting goals and milestones along the way, and considering all areas of your life, you can keep moving forward. Having regular reviews and reflection enables you to keep a rolling roadmap. Knowing your purpose, values and the resources available to you – all of which can also be reviewed periodically – will help you ensure there is always something to focus on and always something that drives you to get up in the morning.
Enhance your own wellbeing
Discovering more about yourself through heightened self-awareness enables you to gain clarity on what you want to achieve and how you want to achieve it. In helping you gain confidence, align your choices in pursuit of your goals and move to positive action, you will enhance your wellbeing and performance as you focus on the things that matter most to you.
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